Subtitle: What I Don't Like About Men (Can also apply to women)
I don't really know how to write this piece because it involves sad and hard parts of life.
1) Superpower 1: Strength
When men use their strength to dominate, control, and hurt people, especially those that are dependent on them. Honestly, I hate these type of men. When a woman or child needs protection from the one that is supposed to protect them, it makes me grieved and indignant and angry all at the same time. It causes confusion and distorts God's plan and picture.
2) Manipulative
I hate manipulation in any form: using people, scheming, manipulating, playing with people's emotions and hearts, guilt trips, and anything else that has a form of benefit to the other person but has a hidden agenda, motive, or purpose. Deceit and manipulation are married. You can't have one without the other.
3) Deceit/Lies/Dishonesty
How can a healthy relationship be without trust and how can trust be in a relationship where deceit is present, whether it is the foundation or woven throughout? When people lie, it causes confusion, disappointment, and a separation in the bond.
4) "It's all about ME."
Whether it is intentional or not, the expectation that a girl, or girls, are supposed to utterly worship them and make their whole lives around a guy's needs, wants, and desires is utterly repulsive. Ugh, this causes me to be nauseous and disgusted.
5) Always has to be right/win/etc
This kind of selfishness is dumb, foolish, stupid - whatever you want to call it. Who is right all the time? Who is foolish enough to get into arguments and then have to win? If one person wins or is right, it means the other one has to lose or be wrong. This behavior puts the other one down and pushes them away in order to build the "winner" up.
6) Bully
This is the person that uses whatever they have, strength, position, lies, scorn, etc to intimidate another and put them down. I don't know why someone would do this, but it is disgusting. To put someone down is juvenile. Hello, playground?
I know not all guys have these. There are some great guys out there. These are just the characteristics that I don't like. I don't like them in women either. Bleagh :(
Thursday, May 30, 2013
Friday, April 26, 2013
Marriage for Tech Guys
Subject: Dear Tech Support:
Last year I upgraded from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0. I soon noticed that the new program began unexpected child processing that took up a lot of space and valuable resources.
In addition, Wife 1.0 installed itself into all other programs and now monitors all other system activity. Applications such as Poker Night 10.3,, Football 5.0, Hunting and Fishing 7.5, , and Golfing 3.6.
I can't seem to keep Wife 1.0 in the background while attempting to run my favorite applications. I'm thinking about going back to Girlfriend 7.0 , but the uninstall doesn't work on Wife 1.0 . Please help!
Thanks, Troubled User.....
_____________________________________
REPLY:
Dear Troubled User:
This is a very common problem that men complain about.
Many people upgrade from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0, thinking that it is just a Utilities and Entertainment program. Wife 1.0 is an OPERATING SYSTEM and is designed by its Creator to run EVERYTHING !!! It is also impossible to delete Wife 1.0 and to return toGirlfriend 7.0 . It is impossible to uninstall, or purge the program files from the system once installed.
You cannot go back to Girlfriend 7.0 because Wife 1.0 is designed to not allow this. Look in your Wife 1.0 manual under Warnings-Alimony/Child Support . I recommend that you keep Wife 1.0 and work on improving the situation. I suggest installing the background application "Yes Dear" to alleviate software augmentation.
The best course of action is to enter the commandC:\APOLOGIZE! because ultimately you will have to give the APOLOGIZE command before the system will return to normal anyway.
Wife 1.0 is a great program, but it tends to be very high maintenance . Wife 1.0 comes with several support programs, such as Clean and Sweep 3.0 ,Cook It 1.5 and Do Bills 4.2 .
However, be very careful how you use these programs.Improper use will cause the system to launch the program Nag Nag 9.5 . Once this happens, the only way to improve the performance of Wife 1.0 is to purchase additional software. I recommend Flowers 2.1 and Diamonds 5.0 !
WARNING!!! DO NOT, under any circumstances, install Secretary With Short Skirt 3.3 . This application is not supported by Wife 1.0 and willcause irreversible damage to the operating system!
Best of luck,
Tech Support
Last year I upgraded from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0. I soon noticed that the new program began unexpected child processing that took up a lot of space and valuable resources.
In addition, Wife 1.0 installed itself into all other programs and now monitors all other system activity. Applications such as Poker Night 10.3,, Football 5.0, Hunting and Fishing 7.5, , and Golfing 3.6.
I can't seem to keep Wife 1.0 in the background while attempting to run my favorite applications. I'm thinking about going back to Girlfriend 7.0 , but the uninstall doesn't work on Wife 1.0 . Please help!
Thanks, Troubled User.....
_____________________________________
REPLY:
Dear Troubled User:
This is a very common problem that men complain about.
Many people upgrade from Girlfriend 7.0 to Wife 1.0, thinking that it is just a Utilities and Entertainment program. Wife 1.0 is an OPERATING SYSTEM and is designed by its Creator to run EVERYTHING !!! It is also impossible to delete Wife 1.0 and to return toGirlfriend 7.0 . It is impossible to uninstall, or purge the program files from the system once installed.
You cannot go back to Girlfriend 7.0 because Wife 1.0 is designed to not allow this. Look in your Wife 1.0 manual under Warnings-Alimony/Child Support . I recommend that you keep Wife 1.0 and work on improving the situation. I suggest installing the background application "Yes Dear" to alleviate software augmentation.
The best course of action is to enter the commandC:\APOLOGIZE! because ultimately you will have to give the APOLOGIZE command before the system will return to normal anyway.
Wife 1.0 is a great program, but it tends to be very high maintenance . Wife 1.0 comes with several support programs, such as Clean and Sweep 3.0 ,Cook It 1.5 and Do Bills 4.2 .
However, be very careful how you use these programs.Improper use will cause the system to launch the program Nag Nag 9.5 . Once this happens, the only way to improve the performance of Wife 1.0 is to purchase additional software. I recommend Flowers 2.1 and Diamonds 5.0 !
WARNING!!! DO NOT, under any circumstances, install Secretary With Short Skirt 3.3 . This application is not supported by Wife 1.0 and willcause irreversible damage to the operating system!
Best of luck,
Tech Support
Borrowed from yesemails.com
Marriage, who does it benefit?
In the Bible, in Genesis, the work was given to Adam, the man. And the curse where it would be harder to farm and raise crops and provide for a family was given to him. God gave the man strength and endurance and an inner drive to accomplish something in life for this reason- he was made to work.
The curse of pain in childbirth was given to Eve, the woman. In the New Testament and in Proverbs 31, taking care of a household is depicted as the woman's area of responsibility. Women carry and give birth to and care for children and God gave them a heart and body to do so.
The man's role is to provide and the woman's is to manage the household. Each has what they need to accomplish their role.
But we live in today, in the era of two income households, public and private schooling, daycares, and women who have careers. In the average marriage, or live-in partnership, the woman works in addition to taking care of the house and caring for the kids. This doesn't really look like it benefits the woman. I mean, why should women have to bear both curses? There are some great guys who pitch in in the housework and take an active role in raising and training children, but honestly, is that really the average man, even the average Christian man? Probably not. Sometimes the man is in the home and sometimes he's not. Either way, it's the woman who is left to manage a house and help the kids with their homework and put them in bed and manage extra curricular activities. Two curses.
Given these choices, to only work and care for myself or to work and then have to care for a husband, raise kids, and take care of a house, I choose being single. Marriage doesn't look appealing if I have to bear his curse in addition to my own.
So in a marriage, a guy gets someone to cook and clean and bear his children and help support the family, but what does the girl get? It used to be that the girl got financial stability and the freedom to not have to work outside the home, but its not like that anymore. Marriage benefits the man, unless he makes enough to support a family.
The curse of pain in childbirth was given to Eve, the woman. In the New Testament and in Proverbs 31, taking care of a household is depicted as the woman's area of responsibility. Women carry and give birth to and care for children and God gave them a heart and body to do so.
The man's role is to provide and the woman's is to manage the household. Each has what they need to accomplish their role.
But we live in today, in the era of two income households, public and private schooling, daycares, and women who have careers. In the average marriage, or live-in partnership, the woman works in addition to taking care of the house and caring for the kids. This doesn't really look like it benefits the woman. I mean, why should women have to bear both curses? There are some great guys who pitch in in the housework and take an active role in raising and training children, but honestly, is that really the average man, even the average Christian man? Probably not. Sometimes the man is in the home and sometimes he's not. Either way, it's the woman who is left to manage a house and help the kids with their homework and put them in bed and manage extra curricular activities. Two curses.
Given these choices, to only work and care for myself or to work and then have to care for a husband, raise kids, and take care of a house, I choose being single. Marriage doesn't look appealing if I have to bear his curse in addition to my own.
So in a marriage, a guy gets someone to cook and clean and bear his children and help support the family, but what does the girl get? It used to be that the girl got financial stability and the freedom to not have to work outside the home, but its not like that anymore. Marriage benefits the man, unless he makes enough to support a family.
Thursday, April 18, 2013
Things I Like About Men
Here is a list of the top things I like about guys and my perception of these and how they make me feel.
When they use their superpowers for good:
1) Strength. I like how strong men are.
I am very attracted to fit men. Not overly-muscled guys, just fit.
Men are able to work harder and longer physically and can handle more stress and problems emotionally. Men can be rocks that you can lean on. Protectors, Providers, People who pick you up and spin you around. All of these are great.
2) Clear Headed:
I like how men can see a situation clearly and, although they are not unaffected by emotion, it doesn't normally cloud their judgment or influence their decisions or confuse them like sometimes happens to me. They are able to think about a situation and handle it with clarity and wisdom.
3) Giving:
Men are normally natural givers to their women. They want to make us happy, to give us the world, and use gifts to show us how much we mean to them and that they would be good providers. This unselfishness that men display is foreign and new to my way of thinking, but I like it.
4) Honest:
They don't normally try to hide who they are. (With the exception of trying to impress a girl. That doesn't count. lol) They are just themselves and don't try to be anyone else.
5) Honorable:
A good man is loyal to the girl he's with. This "hunting" mindset is very different for me, but it does convince a girl of his loyalty when he's not looking at other women or cheating. I do believe this is the average man. He wants a wife and kids and a good life just like everyone else and hunts just one woman.
6) Warrior:
This is my favorite part of men, the part that likes battle, competition, training, victory. Hunting, tracking fishing, shooting, combat, sports, martial arts - they all represent the warrior side of men. I don't know why I like this part of guys the best. Maybe it is a primal thing? I just think it glorious to see a man fight. Even if he loses, as long as he fights well, I adore him in that instant.
When they use their superpowers for good:
1) Strength. I like how strong men are.
I am very attracted to fit men. Not overly-muscled guys, just fit.
Men are able to work harder and longer physically and can handle more stress and problems emotionally. Men can be rocks that you can lean on. Protectors, Providers, People who pick you up and spin you around. All of these are great.
2) Clear Headed:
I like how men can see a situation clearly and, although they are not unaffected by emotion, it doesn't normally cloud their judgment or influence their decisions or confuse them like sometimes happens to me. They are able to think about a situation and handle it with clarity and wisdom.
3) Giving:
Men are normally natural givers to their women. They want to make us happy, to give us the world, and use gifts to show us how much we mean to them and that they would be good providers. This unselfishness that men display is foreign and new to my way of thinking, but I like it.
4) Honest:
They don't normally try to hide who they are. (With the exception of trying to impress a girl. That doesn't count. lol) They are just themselves and don't try to be anyone else.
5) Honorable:
A good man is loyal to the girl he's with. This "hunting" mindset is very different for me, but it does convince a girl of his loyalty when he's not looking at other women or cheating. I do believe this is the average man. He wants a wife and kids and a good life just like everyone else and hunts just one woman.
6) Warrior:
This is my favorite part of men, the part that likes battle, competition, training, victory. Hunting, tracking fishing, shooting, combat, sports, martial arts - they all represent the warrior side of men. I don't know why I like this part of guys the best. Maybe it is a primal thing? I just think it glorious to see a man fight. Even if he loses, as long as he fights well, I adore him in that instant.
Wednesday, April 17, 2013
Why I LOVE Being Single
Freedom!
Yup, this is the main reason I love being single. My married friend's lives are so chained by other people's schedules. They have to coordinate their time, who is using what vehicle, and what they can spend or not spend before they make any kind of plans. If they have kids, its worse. Then they have feeding times, diaper changing, babysitters, school, school plays, games, recitals, practices, and whatever else they schedule in.
Me, I just go.
If I want to go to the store, I don't have to schedule it for when my husband doesn't have the car or make sure he didn't spend the grocery money. I don't have to load one or more kids in a vehicle before going anywhere. I just go.
If I want to have dinner with a friend, I just call them up and see if they are free. Married people can't do that without coordinating.
If I want to take a weekend trip, I just go.
If I want to take a vacation, I just go.
If I want to buy something, I just buy it.
If I want to do ANYTHING, I just do it.
When you are married and/or have kids, all this freedom goes away like a dandelion seed that's been blown on. I see a picket fence as a cage and a trap, no matter how pleasant, is still a trap.
I love this freedom, this feeling of being unhampered and chained by the needs, expectations, and demands of another. It makes me feel like I am flying, free and independent, like nothing can touch me.
Get married? It doesn't really sound that much better than what I am loving now. I am not opposed to getting married. I just really love doing what I want and not being hindered. I love my freedom.
The Other People's Views
First post, here we go.
First off, I don't hate men. I go to a conservative church where people all around me believe it is their life's goal to get married and have kids. If you do this, you have arrived and are counted as a "success". Since I do not share those views, I am called a "man hater". Not that I am against getting married myself; the right guy, if he exists, just hasn't come along. I also happen to LOVE being single, but more about that later.
Some Many of these people think it is everyone's goal to get married, and, if for some reason, you don't wish to or if it is not a big deal to you if you don't, they think you are:
A: Weird
B: Homosexual (Imagine having this reputation in a conservative church!)
C: Lying when you say you are fine without marriage
D: Interpreting the Bible incorrectly and/or out of God's will for my life. (Because it must be God's will for everyone to be married.)
E: Still "waiting" on the right one.
Well, I am a bit weird, so no argument there. ;) But to refute the rest:
1) I am very attracted to guys. I was born that way. lol
2) Not a liar.
3) There is no where in the Bible where we are commanded to marry just to be married. It is not a sin to not be married; to be single; or to not bear children.
4) I stopped waiting and I started living. I don't need a guy to have fun or travel or be myself.
Sometimes these people (the ones who think it is everyone's life goal to be married) act patronizing toward the single people. There is the attitude, "I'm married (sometimes "and I have a kid"), so therefore, I know so much more than you as a single person; am on a pedestal above you because you are single, and am better than you in rank, status, and value.
I ignore those people and just live my life, happy in my freedom and singleness.
First off, I don't hate men. I go to a conservative church where people all around me believe it is their life's goal to get married and have kids. If you do this, you have arrived and are counted as a "success". Since I do not share those views, I am called a "man hater". Not that I am against getting married myself; the right guy, if he exists, just hasn't come along. I also happen to LOVE being single, but more about that later.
A: Weird
B: Homosexual (Imagine having this reputation in a conservative church!)
C: Lying when you say you are fine without marriage
D: Interpreting the Bible incorrectly and/or out of God's will for my life. (Because it must be God's will for everyone to be married.)
E: Still "waiting" on the right one.
Well, I am a bit weird, so no argument there. ;) But to refute the rest:
1) I am very attracted to guys. I was born that way. lol
2) Not a liar.
3) There is no where in the Bible where we are commanded to marry just to be married. It is not a sin to not be married; to be single; or to not bear children.
4) I stopped waiting and I started living. I don't need a guy to have fun or travel or be myself.
Sometimes these people (the ones who think it is everyone's life goal to be married) act patronizing toward the single people. There is the attitude, "I'm married (sometimes "and I have a kid"), so therefore, I know so much more than you as a single person; am on a pedestal above you because you are single, and am better than you in rank, status, and value.
I ignore those people and just live my life, happy in my freedom and singleness.
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